Brave and B Favouriting: 5 September Must Haves!

Hey guys!

Welcome back to my blog!

Now that I’ve gotten that start of my Self-Care journey out of the way, I wanted to share some of my favourites of September that I just can’t keep to myself. All of these products are things that I used regularly throughout September

1. Molten Metal Nail Paints by Barry M

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Something that I’ve been doing recently that I don’t think I’ve done before in my life is painting my nails. I gives me time to focus on something that isn’t problems or stressful and it also makes my nails look amazing. I’ve been loving the shades Pink Ice and Silver Lining from the Molten Metal line by Barry M, it perfectly matches the 90s grunge aesthetic that I am loving at the moment.

2. Fireside Treats Candle

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One of my favourite self-care rituals is to light candles in my room, it really helps to clear my mind and get me ready for bed. With that said you probably understand that I’ve been through a lot of candle scents! But right now I am loving the fireside treats candle by Yankee Candle it is the perfect scent for the long autumn nights and it helps that it smells like Disneyland Main Street.

3. Mindfulness for Every Day by Yvette Jane

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One of the best finds that I picked up this month was Mindfulness for Every Day. As a regular user of mindfulness meditation to avoid panic attacks I think this book is the perfect reminder that you can accomplish anything! The pictures and quotes on every page of this book helps me to feel more calm and reminds me to take a break and enjoy the world. Personally I would be lost without mindful meditation and this book is a beautiful reminder of how good life is on the bad days.

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4. Colorista in Turquoise

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So if you know me in real life, you know that I’ve been constantly dying my hair different colours in a way to bring more creativity in my life. However, I did over do it in February when a good chunk of my hair fell out! Since then I’ve stopped bleaching my hair and I am growing it out to my natural colour for the first time in years! But that doesn’t mean that I can’t have fun with the bottom damaged hair. I’ve always been hesitant to dye my hair any shade of blue as the last time it didn’t come out but this shade of turquoise is the perfect colour for me. I doesn’t wash me out and it’s so easy to apply by yourself!

 

5. Wonderful Wonderful by The Killers

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I initially wasn’t going to add this into my favourites and was going to do a separate blog post (hence the different background!) but I thought that this album needed a shout out because it got the to the top of the billboard charts! The Killers have been my favourite band since 2008 and have helped me through the darkest parts of my life so it’s only fair that I give their new album a shout out. And what a wonder album it is! The songs are amazing and it was completely worth the wait! My personal favourites are ‘Rut’ and ‘Life to Come’ but of course all of the album is completely flawless!! (and OF COURSE I bought it twice!)

 

That’s all of my favourites from this month! Get ready for this month of blog posts that I’ve lined up as it’s going to be something to stick around for!

 

Bethany.

 

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Brave and Just B Okay

Hey everyone!

There’s this question that has been going around in my head non-stop: Is it egotistical to be proud of yourself?

This is something that has been plaguing my mind throughout the week and I thought I would share some advice with you all!

The past month, a lot of crazy good things have been happening in my life, from work opportunities to university events which have no doubt been not just good for my CV but for my self-worth.

You see, I have a very low self-worth, I always have and with this, I became egotistical from a young age. The lonely child inside of me made me push to go to Queens and get good grades to be better than everyone else. I wanted to move away from here to be better, hell I even thought that being friends with people who I had nothing in common with would make me look better. These things made me egotistical but not because I thought I was amazing, it was because I was afraid for everyone to actually get to know me. I didn’t believe in myself and I didn’t want anyone to get close to me. I never called anyone my best friend in case they left and I never spoke to people in class, not because I had nothing to say but in case they began to see the real me.

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(Me Back in 2013, hiding behind a smile)

But these things that I thought would excel me into greatness where the reason that I was restricted, that I held back and that I missed opportunities in my life. It wasn’t until a few years ago that my life changed and it wasn’t until a few months ago that I realised that it had changed for the good.

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(Me before I started counselling last year)

At the end of summer when I finished counselling, I didn’t know what would happen to me, I thought I would maybe go back to my old ways of sitting in silence suffering for nothing but the guilt I inflicted on myself. And I did do that for a while, I ate mostly junk food, I was judgmental of everyone and the worst part about it was that I was very judgmental in myself. You wouldn’t believe it but that was the start of September. Before I created this blog. And before I slowly started to climb out of my self-made rut.

But back to the present, I’m currently doing well at my job, I have so many friends that I couldn’t even imagine, I am enjoying every aspect of university and I’ve been blessed with some very exciting emails and projects. I am happy. But does that mean that I have a big ego?

For now, in my life, I have decided that I don’t. This doesn’t feel like it used to, where I tried to hide my lack of self-worth by my achievements. I don’t need any achievements to know that I am where I’m meant to be. And although I know that I am not 100% there I know that I have some self-worth and that I deserve happiness.

I made a mistake during the last half of 2017 not posting anything to my blog, I was falling back into the rut and was so anxious

 

about what I was putting out into the world. But I’ve missed this. I have a lot of ideas that I want to do this blog and I think that 2018 is the year to do it.

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Brave and B Reflective

Hey everyone!

I just wanted to update you on what’s happening on this blog. For a while I’ve been putting my blog on the back burner while university and life took the front seat, resulting in no posts in almost so months! I’m not here to make excuse, I’m here to integrate you all into my life and co-create for both university and my blog!

I am currently studying film at QUB and I’m not going to lie, it is super hard and stressful this year and I didn’t realise until very recently that I hadn’t been giving myself enough self care like I should have. Constantly forgetting to do the simplest things such as washing my hair or lighting candles. But I am determined to change this!

I will be back this week with a few new blog posts, starting a new series of articles and opening up a bit more about my life and what’s been going around in my head recently.

I hope that you are all continuing this journey with me!

Bethany

Brave and B Happy

Hello everyone,

I thought I would start my first post by talking about the happiest moment of 2017 so far! So as you will find out over the next year, I have had the worst year ever leading up to summer 2017 when I decided to kick it in the butt! One of the main changes in my life was when I went to Disneyland Paris for a week with my sister.

I come from a low income family so going away for a holiday has never happened before but my sister and I decided to bite the bullet last year and booked a sister holiday to Disneyland Paris for a week! Honestly, I was quite afraid of going away from home and my anxiety was getting the better of me making me feel like I wouldn’t have a good time. But when we landed inParis after a three hour delay n London (yawn..) I saw a whole new world, if you pardon my references.

I saw a place that was sunny and free, as we got a taxi from the airport to the hotel I saw rows of corn and miles of golden land that I couldn’t believe it! I wish I had gotten a picture as it was like a utopia that I had seen in films. We got to the Santa Fe hotel which was cars themed and checked in, I had never felt both so happy and overwhelmed at the same time. It was late at night so my sister and I decided to head into the Disney Park and try to get onto the rides. Throughout this whole time I felt numb, it felt like a dream and I didn’t know how to react at all. We got in and went on Big Thunder Mountain and Phantom Manor and before we knew it, it was half ten so we made the decision to go watch the fireworks.

As soon as the illuminations show started, I started to shiver, this was something that I had alway dreamed of as a kid and now it was coming to life. I couldn’t stop the tears from leaking out of my eyes as I reflected on the past year, all of the medication and counselling and pain was extremely hard to deal with but I was so happy that I didn’t give up. And I was so happy to be standing beside my sister watching a dream come true. This was the time that I realised that I needed to take care of myself, that this happiness that I felt shouldn’t be a one off thing.

This seems like a perfect time to end this post but I’ll leave you with this picture that I took on our first morning at Disneyland.

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Bethany.